Say these affirmations out loud.
I am beautiful
Happiness is my birth right
I love myself unconditionally
I am brave
I have always been, and will always be enough
Doesn’t that feel good? Strange? Maybe slightly uncomfortable if you’re going through a rough patch. The more uncomfortable I feel saying these words, the more I know I need them. All of these statements are true, for both you and I, yet they can feel absolutely impossible to believe. The purpose of daily affirmations is to create a “no trespassing zone” in both your mind and energy field, blocking out negative messages that do nothing but cripple your beautiful spirit. Positive affirmations lift you up, give you a real sense of power and remind you of who you really are. You can sit down with a pen and paper and carefully choose your own words or a phrase that you know will best empower you.
What are your current affirmations? I’m gonna guess that they’re mostly just fear-driven lies you repeat to yourself, over and over, both out loud and in your head. Most of the time you won’t even realise you’re doing it. Mine usually come out late at night, or when I’m with a group of girlfriends and they’re paying me compliments. ‘Oh babe your pedicure is lovely’, ‘YOU MAD? I HATE MY TOES.’
Negative affirmations sound a little something like this:
I am shite. I am spotty. I am a mess. I am never happy. I can’t do it. I am out of shape. I am poor. I am incapable of meeting a nice guy. I am lonely. I am about to get fired. I am addicted to smoking. I am a bad person. I am too weak to change my life. I am out of control.
No wonder it’s so easy to drift off in to feelings of worthlessness and utter crap. The more we repeat these draining words, the truer they become for us, and the more we lose touch with our innate and incredible personal power. We probably won’t meet a nice guy, and we probably will get fired – because that’s exactly what we’re putting out in to the Universe. And guess what? The Universe works as a mirror for our thoughts, reflecting back to us more of the stuff we put out.
“Metaphysically, affirmations change your body’s energy field, which affects the energy field that is universal consciousness. And when you speak them, you emit a sound wave that travels through the air and interacts with the delicate dynamic of the universe. Remember that a thought is an inner activity, while speech has an outward effect. This is why it’s so important to speak your positive thoughts. The universal consciousness will respond in kind, so you should be aware of what thoughts and affirmations you are sending out into the energy field that is shared by all. Affirm the very best about yourself and your life. And when you say affirmations, make yourself believe what you are saying — that is the key to affirming speech into reality.”
It’s that simple. If we radiate fear and lack, we’ll get more of it. If we radiate love and gratitude? You guessed it. More of the good shit.
CHOOSE YOUR WORDS WISELY.
And then practice them. Every single day. Soon enough they will become engrained in your subconscious mind and adopted as your beliefs, replacing all of those exhausting and hopeless old ones. Write them on your mirror, scribble them in your note book, have them tattooed on your ass cheeks for all I care. Just bring those beautiful, new affirmations to the forefront of your mind, and repeat them until you feel unstoppable. Your life will begin to transform, opportunities will appear as if by magic, you’ll create the space for new and exciting adventures. Life becomes one, big, miraculous gift.
The more connected you are to yourself and the more you truly understand your value, talent, capabilities and potential, the stronger you’ll hold up against the persuasive and relentless forces of social media. (Which by the way, are constantly trying to convince you that you’re not good enough, need to change, or should look, feel or live like somebody else that ‘has it better’ in order to be truly happy.) PEOPLE MAKE A SHIT TONNE OF MONEY FROM CONVINCING YOU THAT YOU NEED SOMETHING TANGIBLE AND EXTERNAL IN ORDER TO FEEL GOOD. There are thousands of clever little bastards and the world’s leading experts in psychology, working through the night to come up with cunning and manipulative ways to fuck with your mind and persuade you to buy a new pair of tits, the salad with the least calories, 30K fake followers, a shiny new eye shadow palette and a £600 handbag. And if you enjoy those things (I’m a sucker for an eyeshadow palette), then that’s absolutely great. You go enjoy them, live an abundant life filled with shiny things, relish in those robots liking your pics, but DO NOT RELY ON THEM TO BRING YOU TRUE, LASTING, DEEP HAPPINESS AND FULFILMENT. Aint gonna happen. In the words of Kylie Jenner, “I have all this nice stuff, but it doesn’t mean anything.”
We live in a media-driven society, technology is everywhere and messages from external forces are constantly striving for our attention and invading our thoughts and beliefs on a daily basis. But let me tell you, there is no bigger pile of bull shit than that of a glossy advert or carefully manipulated social media account that screams ‘my life is fucking awesome, and your’s sucks’. Every time you see one of these from now on, I want you to shout BULLSHIT at your phone, and put some long-overdue use to that handy little ‘unfollow’ button. Those perfectly airbrushed, doll-like ‘people’ who are rolling in cash, always on holiday, have the ‘dream’ life and the skin of a dolphin, are in fact human beings. Plain old, every day human beings with morning breath and armpit hair and bad habits and down days. They get shit wrong, they cry, they eat cake and they found zero sense of purpose in getting 5,000 likes for a picture of their ass on Instagram and 700 comments off dudes saying ‘I wanna lick it’ and ‘check your dm’. Trust me. It’s all empty.
Social media can be a very happy, enjoyable, care-free experience full of inspiration and wonder – if you follow the right pages, use it for the right reasons, and don’t. get. sucked. in.
Here’s a perfect example of what I would refer to as ‘getting sucked in’. I was just on Instagram looking for a photo that I would deem as the perfect illustration of ‘brain washing’ ie. “Wahey. Buy these life changing chewy, blue, bear shaped vitamins that are stuffed full of sugar but will turn you in to Shakira over night.” I didn’t find one, because I got side tracked. I stumbled across an Insta model called @sierraaaskyee, and began scrolling. I got sucked in. Now, If i’d been doing my affirmations, loving myself, knowing my worth and practising total confidence in who I am – I’d be able to scroll through her page and be like, ‘She’s hot (and heavily edited) And I’m still awesome. Good for us both’ … and then move on. But I didn’t. I started to feel really, really, really insecure. I kept scrolling. By the time I’d reached her trip to Honolulu back in 2007, I started to seriously wonder how often she must go to the gym. What she eats. How much her surgery cost, is her ass real? Are her tits fake? Could I ever look like that? Would I even want to? Would I be more loveable if I looked like her? Surely she doesn’t get morning breath? She probably had it removed.
And then the comments…”I would take a nap on dat ass”, “She’s an angel”, ‘This is perfection.”
Well if this is perfection then I ain’t shit, I’m definitely no angel and there are zero people queuing up to take a nap on my wobbly ass. Uhhh. *hits the like button anyway*
And then I finally snapped out of it. WHAT DA FUQQQQ. I’m in the middle of writing a blog about how to love yourself enough to not let Instagram brainwash you, whilst staring blankly at my nipples and wondering if they’re symmetrical enough. Does somebody need to start taking their own advice? Me thinky so.
So here I go. Lying in bed, feeling a little insecure, sharing it with you guys and telling you that it’s okay. It’s actually a wonderful sign that I should be doing more work on loving myself, believing that I am already worthy, already good enough and already fucking awesome. BECAUSE I AM. AND SO ARE YOU!!!!
Here are my old vs. new affirmations
Old affirmation: My period is due and I look like Dracula
New affirmation: I am overflowing with joy and energy. I am radiant!
Old affirmation: I need to workout more, if I lose some weight I’ll be happier.
New affirmation: My body is healthy and beautiful. I create my own happiness.
Old affirmation: I’m not good enough to live out my dreams.
New affirmation: I acknowledge my own incredible and unlimited self-worth and know that anything is possible.
Old affirmation: I’m so anxious about the future.
New affirmation: I am at peace with all that has happened, is happening, and will happen because I know that everything is towards my highest good.
Old affirmation: I need to go on a diet.
New affirmation: I forgive myself for not treating my body well in the past. I was doing the best I could with the understanding and knowledge I had. Now I care enough for myself to nourish myself with all the best that life has to offer.
I’d love to hear what you’re old and new affirmations are! Don’t forget to repeat the shit out of them, say them every day, live by them!!!
Loving you all (and myself ;))